Over the last couple of weeks, people, mainly my mom because I so hate bad mouthing the other half to others, has heard how much stress I have been under. The melting hair, the pulling of teeth (not literally), the general want to break down and cry and run away stress.
Up to this point, most people didn’t understand where the stress was coming from, so now it is time to explain. For Clinton to come to the states he has to have a Visa. Well that Visa is pretty much all in my hands, as its a Fiancée visa. Which means, there is a BUTT load of paperwork and shit that has to be done. I started in when I was back in the states in May, and we are still working on it. The paperwork isn’t so much the stress, but rather the lack of “motivation” by Clinton to get the things I need done. I have filled out all the paperwork, gotten the copies of everything I possible could of, all of that, while he has been able to just sit back and DO NOTHING!
His personality doesn’t work well with timelines and paperwork. He is very much a I have time, I will do it later kinda guy. Just fine for normal things, not so fine for the U.S. Government. So I have to keep asking him to do things, and it finally made me so stressed out that I broke last week. It seems he didn’t realize the amount of stress I was under and how much actual work I had done to make this all happen. Now before anyone else says what my mom said a couple weeks ago, YES he does want to come to the U.S., he just doesn’t understand all the hoops he has to jump threw. Oh and now I understand why Mexicans just cross the border, SO MUCH EASIER!
So this week, he has been amazing! And when I say amazing, truly amazing! Monday night was the last Mash-Up of the season, so we were going. Imagine HUGE party with DJ all that. Well after a long day at work, I just wasn’t into it. Just before 9pm he found me looked at my face and said, “baby, let’s just go home now”. WHAT?????? No way you want to leave before 9? Sweet! I agreed and we left. Normally he would have told me to leave and he would catch up later. Then on Tuesday night, while laying in bed he said this gem, “the last time you left I was try to be a man and act all cool, this time I know what it will be like and I want to spend every moment I can with you now”, awwwwwww *blush*!
On Wednesday he had to head to the valley to get his shots, blood tests, birth records for the kids, and a police record (no he doesn’t have one, but has to have proof that he doesn’t have one!) I texted him around 4pm to see how it was going, his reply, “not good” *sigh*. Before he would have said it’s fine. Then later I would have heard that he didn’t get everything done. What is wrong with stupid doctor’s office not being able to give shots, it is a freakin MMR, not like something crazy! And they can do an HIV test, but not Syphilis test, REALLY! ARGHHHH!
But it has been truly nice to see him step up to the plate this week and really try his best. He even said yesterday well I guess I will just have to take off Friday and go to Tortola to get the rest of this done. ahhhhh what a great week it has been!
What he has done for me this week is so much better than any flowers, candy, or card could have done! WOW, it has been nice!